“Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.” – Carl Jung
My fellow classmates couldn’t believe what I’d said. They looked at me like I’d strolled in without clothes.
While attending a senior military leadership course, my peers and I were discussing value and how we saw value in others. Then the instructor asked if everyone had value. Knowing the answer, I said “No.”
Cue the looks of horror.
So I carefully explained that if everyone had value then our annual performance reports could be reduced to, “This person has value.” What else is necessary if indeed everyone has value? I was so smart.
It took me years to find out how wrong I was.
Just like fish have no idea that water exists (thank you Derek Sivers), it nearly impossible to “see” your perspective on the world, or the lenses through which you see the world.
One of the best ways I’ve found to take off your lenses and inspect them is through an analysis called the enneagram test (pronounced ANY-a-gram). I find it more useful than DISC and more insightful than MBTI.
What else did I learn? I learned why I don’t celebrate successes, that it can be difficult to get to know me, that people like me (OK…me too) fear worthlessness, and when stressed I often substitute action for feeling.
Here’s a link to take your own free enneagram test.
What water are you swimming in?